If you've been following my blog for long, you'll know that my 10 yr old and I ran our first 5K together this last May as part of the Girls on the Run program. It was SO fun, that we've decided to do it again this fall - and we'll be running our next 5K the weekend before Thanksgiving. We can't wait!
But this post isn't about that.
This post is about raising boys and girls in this house. The deal is - dad tells the boys what they need to know, and I tell Wendy what I think she needs to know. We're pretty open about stuff over here, especially considering our Finnish nature. bit the way I figure it, it's just better to keep the discussion lifelines open so they don't ever have to be shy about asking anything. I don't want them to feel like what they are going through is anything embarrassing, or awkward, or that they need to be ashamed of. We're all wired the same way, we all go through the same stages more or less, so why be shy about it?
Wendy embraces my philosophy pretty well. As much as I've tried to slow down her development with hormone-free products, the fact remains - she's growing up.
Just last week she came soaring down the stairs with her nose all wrinkled and a "mooooooooooom" on her lips, followed by - I have a hair IN MY ARMPIT! She's so fun to raise.
It happens to the best of us, right?
While she has a book she can refer to (The Care and Keeping of You) she still looks to me for reassurance and confirmation and NOW WHAT??? From time to time, as she should and as I hope she always feels free to do.
Being that this girl is all about running, and rollerblading, and soccer, and volleyball, and playing hard in general (did I tell you about the leggings she wore through in one day??) we've already had the deoderant talk awhile ago.
In looking for a deoderant for her, first I let her use some Suave* deoderant that I had purchased for myself. Unilever is the leading manufacturer of deoderant and antiperspirants and the makers of Degree® Men, Degree® Women, Degree® Girl, Dove® AND Suave®. Their goal is to ensure that parents and their kids remains cool and confident throughout the day. I switched Wendy over to Degree* Girl the next time I remembered at the store. It's just a little more girly packaged for her overnight bags.
AND - Unilever also has a Facebook page, www.Facebook.com/Don'tFretTheSweat where you can find expert tips, tools and real-life stories about how parents are communicating and transitioning their tweens into confident and self-reliant teens.
No Sweat, Right?
Now as part of this campaign, I'm excited to be able to offer you, my readers, a chance to win a $100 Visa gift card and a Don't Fret The Sweat gift pack. This chance to win is open for a full month, from 10/4 - 11/4/11. You can also check BlogHer for even more chances to win!
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I think I started using deodorant when I was 11. My kids are still too young but I definitely worry about keeping B.O. under wraps as they get older, if their stinky socks are any indication.
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i wore thru clothes hard when i was a kid too! i was about 12 when i started using deodorant. scg00387 at yahoo dot com
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ReplyDeleteI don't remember when I started using deo. I am 51... Can't remember that far back. Lol. My daughter is 23 now I don't remember when she started wearing it either. She takes good care of herself now, so guess we did something right. chefl@swbell.net
ReplyDeleteI think I was 12 when I started wearing deo.
ReplyDeletei'm not looking forward to having this talk with my kids
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I'm pretty sure that I started wearing deodorant at a normal age, BUT something crazy has changed in the last 5 years or so and I've had to change over to clinical strength to help me out!
ReplyDeleteMy twin boys just began the need for deodorant. I nag a lot, had them pick out their own choice of scent and I leave it out in plain sight as a reminder.
ReplyDeleteI'm definitely dreading it- the stink and the rest of the teenage stuff! :)
ReplyDeleteI think I started wearing deodorant at my early teens. I was always sweaty and no kidding, it wasn’t fun to be able to smell my own sweat, not to mention my close friends. It was one of my best friends who told me "it's time"! I better don’t go too much into details here! LOL
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Unfortunately (although I have read it is healthy) I am a huge sweater so my mom had to introduce deodorant to me at about age 8--but I thought it was cool at the time because it was a "big girl" thing.
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ReplyDeleteTalking to kids about the changes in their bodies is hard. My niece shocked me so much with things other kids had told her. She still amazes me about some of the things they come up with. She loves Dove Girls.
ReplyDeleteI don’t remember the exact age for myself or my son! But, boys seem to need it once they hit puberty!
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I know my two teens still need reminders for showers and other personal care. And my youngest (1st grade) was so sweaty at the start of the school year I think he may need to start using something earlier than his big sis and bro did. Big bro also seems to think body spray is a good substitute to real deodorant/ antiperspirant. I hope dad and I can get through to him soon. Keep up the good fight!
ReplyDeletewe teach them to wash their hands after each potty use
ReplyDeleteI started at 12, and so far my kids have started using deodorant at that age also. I never have any trouble telling them that they need to use it. No one wants to be smelling up a room!
ReplyDeleteI started to wear deo when I was 13 or so if memory serves right.
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ReplyDeletei was in fifth grade when i started using deodorant so prob around 11.
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I started wearing deodorant around the age of 13. My daughters are still too young but wouldn't mind having the talk with them as they get older.
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I started wearing deodorant around 12. My baby is still too young though!
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I started wearing deodorant around the age of 12 or 13. Personal hygiene is very important to me.
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I think I was about 15 before I started wearing deodorant. That was a long time ago so it is hard to remember.
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Aww what a cute photo!! I was a late bloomer and didn't really need deodorant until about age 14 but a LOT of my friends used it around 11 and 12. Thanks!
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I was maybe around 13 when I first starting using deodorant...and now at 35 I'm always sweaty after having two kids.
ReplyDeleteMy kids are still young. I think I started using deodorant around 13
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i started using deoderant at 12..thank goodness for it
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I started wearing deodorant around 11/12 yo
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I can't even remember when I started wearing it! Thankfully, my mom was cool about talking to me about it before it became an issue. amy.krauseATgmailDOTcom
ReplyDeleteI started wearing deodorant when I was around 13.
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You know, I have absolutely no idea when I had to start wearing deodorant. I guess that wasn't a milestone in my life:)
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ReplyDeleteMy 9 year old daughters (yes twins going through puberty soon.....what fun) have just started wearing deoderant because it was time!
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I don't have any kids yet but I love Dove!
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I'm looking forward to having this talk with my kid.
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I think I started to wear deodorant at about 12 years old
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i remember my first deodorant! it was teen spirit, haha.
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My children are grown buy when they were young (10 to 12 years old) I helped them learn good hygiene talkin to them about good hygiene. I let them help pick out their hygiene products. I never had one talk but encuraged them to them daily to keep up their hygiene.
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I was about 12 or 13 when I asked my mother for some deodorant. When my son was around 11, I simply bought some for him and told him it was time to start using it. He was okay with that.
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Thank goodness for deodorant when Junior High hit.
ReplyDeleteI started using deodorant when I was 12.
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I started getting smelly at 7
ReplyDeleteI don't look forward to this talk with my son! Maybe I can follow your strategy and have that be a Dad talk!
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My boys were about 11 or 12 when I bought them deodorant for the first time. They forgot about it at first but after a few reminders it became a routine.
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No kids. I started wearing deodorant way back in the beginnings of time.. Or at least 50 years ago.
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I started using it when I was 13.
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ReplyDeleteI started at about 11. my kids are too young but I will be ready for them when it's their turn
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ReplyDeleteI don't see a sweepstakes prompt, so I will just share this with you and hope that is OK: I started using deodorant in the 5th grade, which is when I hit puberty!
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I started wearing it when I was about 11 my daughter is 10, and I got her some at the age of 9. Although she doesnt wear it daily she has it for when she needs it. sweepmorey at gmail dot com
ReplyDeleteI tweeted http://twitter.com/#!/mommysdizzy/status/131869922614722560
ReplyDeleteTrying to get my teenager who is special needs to understand the importance of deodorant is difficult.
ReplyDeleteMy husband recently bought 4 books to have the talk with my son. I am getting ready with my daughters. I don't remember when I started wearing deodorant. I think it was high school.
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Not something I would have thought about - mine is still less than a year old.
ReplyDeleteI started when in my teens as did my daughter.
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ReplyDeleteBest I can recall, I started wearing deodorant around 9 or 10.
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I don't remember when I first started using deodorant. My boys were about 11-12. I have 3 sons and to them it was not a big deal. I would have no idea how to help a girl through puberty.
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ReplyDeleteThis is so great of a giveaway b/c I've tried to promote every "fun" way to do hygiene or all "threats" about getting the girls, to my 13 year old son...and to use HIS deodorant...NOT his Dad's...after he has used it 100 times after working ALL day! LOL! Thanks for the chance!
I was in my early teens when I first started using deo.Mom just walked by and handed a bottle and sid here use it!
ReplyDeleteI started wearing deodorant when I was 12 the same age my children started wearing deoderant
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I started using deodorant when I was like ten years old.
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I was 10 or 11 when I started wearing deodorant.
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This package could really go over well with my nephew, he needs it. The toddler won't be needing it for a few years, so you know, lol. Thanks for the chance, love the giveaway!!!!
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I think I was around 12 when I started wearing deodorant. Same for my kids, although it was sometimes hard convincing my son that he needed it!
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I don't know for sure when I started wearing deodorant, but I know for sure I was wearing it in middle school, especially because I had just moved to Florida from Newport, RI and I was not used to the heat and humidity.
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I started using deodorant when I was 11. no kids yet
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ReplyDeleteI started using deodorant when I was 11 or 12- I don't remember it being a big deal!
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I was eleven and we had our class in an outdoor portable in Texas thus it was incredibly hot and the entire room would stink.
ReplyDeletethat's so amazing that you ran a 5K with your daughter, so inspiring! thank you for the post and the opportunity to win a giftcard yay :)
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I wish that Unilever had had this Facebook page etc.. when I was growing up..it would have helped me alot..I was shy and really did not ask any questions..
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